How young is too young to be a full-on Cassanova? I've blogged before about Little Boo's girlfriends. He really does like the ladies, especially older ones. You know, the 5 and 6 year olds. He had an especial crush though on a 13yo last summer.
But now this obsession with the gals is affecting his soccer game. (bah!) There are two girls on his team, one 4 and one 5. He loves them both, but the 5yo a little more. They are clearly his favourite teammates, which is cute. And the three of them seem to have fun together, playing ring around the rosy, and basically doing anything but playing soccer.
But he seems to have reached a new level of fascination. He left the field part way through his shift on Monday to go chat up one of his girls who was having a turn in goal. And on his next shift I noticed he was covering the lone girl on the other team and trying to strike up a conversation.
At practice last week he was hugging any little girl he could find, whether he knew them or not.
Should I worry?
I'm only partially being facetious here. At 4, I really don't think this is an issue. But sometimes I worry about what the parents of the girls might think. So far no one has been disturbed by his attentions (that I've been told of). But I'm trying to find ways to talk to him about personal space and boundaries. I don't want to make a cold fish out of him. I love how sensitive and loving and touchy-feely he is. And the problem is, I have next to no personal space myself, so it's hard for me to model respectful distance.
What do you think? How can we as parents best teach a balance between reaching out and holding back? How odd is it for a 4yo boy to be this in love with girls? (By contrast, his best friend has recently made it clear that girls are icky and they are not allowed to kiss him. Only Mommy, and aunties and teachers can do this.)