Some of you will know that hubs has been away for the last 3 weeks. Yup. That's right. Three long weeks. (School stuff, master's degree, blahdeblah ... now back to me ...)
I was pretty freaked out about him going away for so long and leaving me with sole parental responsibility 24/7/21. Plus, I don't get to stick with our regular visitation schedule with the Teenager when his Dad is away. So I've only seen my big guy once, for one night, in the last three weeks. He had exams, so he was busy too (studying with the adoring Little Boo around would not have worked well).
There's been a definite downside.
I also have missed a whole bunch of events and networking opportunities and business meetings while I've had no tag-team support. I'm trying not to think about those.
Because, ya know what? It's actually been a pretty freaking good three weeks. (Shh! don't tell Hubs!)
Little Boo and I have settled into a good routine and he's been super helpful and mostly cooperative. Grocery Gateway has kept us fed & drive-thru bank machines have kept us solvent, (Seriously, have you met my kid? I can't take him anywhere.) We've had some playdates & have gone out to lunch together. He helped me deliver my Avon brochures. He taught me how to set up the Wii and play it. (yes, he's 5) And there's been lots of fires in the fireplace and cuddling and movies. A big highlight was going to Big Al's Aquarium store to watch them feed the sharks. We got some new fish and snails too, and Little Boo has been doing a great job feeding them each day. Plus, he is now an expert in Skyping as we've talked to Daddy every night.
There's also a series of things I've noticed that have made my life a little easier since hubs left. It turns out that I do an awful lot of looking after him too. For one thing, although I appreciate the amount of cooking he does, he is really quite a messy cook. My kitchen has never been cleaner. And I have filled only two ice cube trays in the course of three weeks. A huge improvement over the one each morning that I normally have to fill, when I find it sitting empty on the counter. (It's for ice water, honest.) And toilet paper? Well, he and the teenager apparently use an ungodly amount. I've hardly had to change the rolls at all and have of course never found an empty roll on the holder while a half used one sits on the counter.
No disagreements over the TV or the music in the car. I haven't had to readjust the driver's seat the whole time. And my bed? Well, I've been sharing it with the 5yo, and he is so much easier to sleep with. Takes up way less room, doesn't snore, and the covers are basically in the same place in the morning when we wake up as they were when we went to bed.
Tomorrow my brief adventure in single parenthood comes to an end. I get the Teenager in the afternoon and Hubs comes home around bedtime. We will be a family of four again, at least until Monday morning. I already have a bunch of plans that involve me being childfree and socialising with adults.
We'll slip back into our messy, busy, loud routine, but at least we'll all be together again.