"WHAT did you just say??!"
Naturally he repeated it. And he couldn't understand my upset, claiming it wasn't a bad word. (wrong!) When I asked him where he'd heard it and who told him it wasn't a swear word, he grew silent. He tried to change the topic. And eventually he muttered, "I can't remember. You know I have a bad memory!" It was so very clear that he was lying. Lying to protect someone, which I guess is kind of sweet.
Now, ignoring the possibility that he actually heard that word from ME, the interesting thing here is his complete inability to tell a lie. Or at least to tell one convincingly. He didn't want to rat out a friend (or face my wrath at telling me it was my word), and he tried so hard to avoid answering my question at all. When that didn't fly he made a super lame attempt at a lie - "I don't remember." I don't believe you. Lying is just not in him. It is something he dislikes in others, and he feels truly betrayed when he feels someone has lied to him. He is honest to a fault. While this may change when he has more interesting things to hide from us as a teenager, it's quite reassuring for now.
We just need to work on that potty mouth. Mine too I think.
Art often imitates life, and there are lessons to be learned from many forms of entertainment. Here are some suggestions of shows and movies you can check out on Netflix, to start a conversation on honesty and lies with your brood.
For the wee ones:
Super Why!: S1,E15: Humpty Dumpty and Other Fairytale Adventures: Pinocchio
Curious George: S1, E19: Truth about George Burger
Clifford the Big Red Dog: S1, E26: The Kibble Crook
The Adventures of Chuck & Friends: S1, E9: The Pothole / Chuck’s Perfect Plans
And your big kids:
Monster High: Frights, Camera, Action!
H2O: Just Add Water
And a few for you to watch with your teens:
Just Go With It
Bloodline is a new Netflix original series about the Rayburn family, who have some dark family secrets they’re willing to do anything to keep from coming out -- lying included. It's gotten great reviews and has made it onto "My List" as a much watch. Once I finish House of Cards and The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. Both of which also involve many untruths. Hmm.
Disclosure: I am a member of the Netflix #StreamTeam program, and receive special perks as part of my involvement. I was not financially compensated for this post. All opinions on this blog, as always, remain my own.